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Posted by on Nov 28, 2014 in Contributing Writers | 1 comment

Dont Pursue A Girl If… (5 Pakiusap ko sa mga Kalalakihan)

1. Don’t pursue a girl if you feel empty or still in mess.

Lamoyan when you’re in struggle, on your recover road from something na pinagdaanan, or feeling mo naghahanap ka lang talaga ng someone to fulfill your innermost longings. Be a gentleman and dont bring the girl in to your mess. In your pusuit of her, hindi mo naman sasabihin sa kaniya iyan. Best foot forward eh. What could she be thinking is that you’re already “God’s Best” when in fact you’re not.

What’s worst is that hindi mo alam, baka nasa stage din siya ng buhay niya na in her mess din siya or maybe longing for someone to fulfill her. Pagnagyari iyan, she will find her completeness in you while you still can’t find your own.

What can you do? Be humble enough to admit na hindi pa pwede. Ask God for help. He will be willing to do it for you. Wait for the proper time. It will surely come.

2. Don’t pursue a girl if your leaders wont allow you to.

Who are your leaders? Your parents, guardians, pastors and yung mga nirerespeto mong mga tao. There’s wisdom sa mga sinasabi nila. God placed them into your life so He can speak to you through them. Wag makulit at isiping you can do it without their concent. The first step na paglayo natin sa Diyos ay ang paglayo natin sa mga tao Niya. Listen to them, says Proverbs, and it will be a garland to grace your head. Neglect their opinions and disaster will overwhelm you. Lupet noh?

You will know kung pinayagan talaga nila if they’re asking you to be in a relationship. Take it as a “No” kung ang sabi nila ay “Sige na nga”, “Ikaw bahala” or napilitan lang.

3. Don’t pursue a girl if Jesus isnt your #1

Almost every young Christian girl or guy, wants someone who “loves God more than he/she loves me”. Para nga naman si Christ ang center of the relationship.

Real Talk lang: When someone walks into your life and hindi naman si Jesus ang #1 mo, macocompromise mo yung standard mo and settle for that “Christian naman siya” e. What’s worst is maging 6:14 Rule violator ka pa. Madaling magcompromise kung hindi na si Lord ang source ng fulfillment mo or may iba kang attentiom getter.

Being Jesus as your #1 is a Woship factor. I am not pertaining sa worship as kantahan. Worship, meaning, yung ikaw mismo ay para sa glory ni Lord regardless kung anong ginagawa mo sa buhay.

You can boast and say to the girl that Jesus is your #1. But your time, treasure and talent wont lie. Kung sinasabi mong si Jesus ang iyong #1 pero 24/7 mo namang katext si girl, sino ang sinasabi ng time mo na winoworship mo? Instead of spening quality time with Him, mintues na lang dahil kating kati na i-Pm/text si prospect.

4. Don’t pursue a girl if you cant make her pure.

Jesus died to make her pure. He paid so much na kahit ikaw hindi mo kayang bayaran kaya wag kang magkakamaling magkamali.

Movie date alone is a thou shall not. So as texting or chatting very late. Madaming pwedeng mangyari. Dont make her tell you her personal, deep thoughts. Doing this makes emotional connections. Dont make memories alone with her kahit na anong linis pa iyan. Pag iniwan mo iyan at nasaktan, or dahil tinanggal ka na lang talaga ni Lord sa buhay niya, kahit ang pinakamatamis na alaala ay papait at pipilitin niyang makalimutan. Before doing a thing, check the motive of your heart by asking yourself: “Why am I doing this, really?”.

Am I telling guys not to make friends with girls? No. The point is may something ka sa kaniya and you’re being a friend-in-disguise with a different motive. Madaling maattach ang babae sa mga pinagsasabihan niya ng sikreto.
The moment na hindi kayo nagclick dahil nagsawa ka na, she’ll feel bad and betrayed. Male-label-an din siyang “assumera” for misunderstanding yung mga efforts mo. Masakit yun, Sir.

 

5. Don’t pursue a girl if you don’t have concrete plans of marrying her.

Kahit mga bagets, kapag nainfatuate, nagwiwish at nagdeday-dream ng “forever”. Pero lagi na lang bang wishful thinking ng forevs?

Rarely na lang tayong makarinig ng success stories ng lovelife dahil in the first place, walang plano si guy na maging successful ito. Dont play games. Pursue her wih a goal in mind na pakakasalan mo siya. Make it happen. Mag-ipon. Mag-schedule. Execute the plan. Wag mo siyang gawin na pangtest run lang. Matakot ka sa Jesus na dumatig at ginawa ang lahat so she may have life and have it to the full.

So this is my deep-in-my heart plead sa mga guys. Dont pursue a girl when your not ready. Pero dont settle sa position na hindi ka na lang palaging ready. Parang Promised Land ni Lord sa mga Israelites, inihanda na Niya iyon para sa iyo. All you have to do is to “Consecrate yourself for He will do amazing things among you”. Kung trip ni Loving Father na protektahan ang kaniyang mga prinsesa, trip din niya na manalo ka sa gera. Laban Niya to more than sa naging laban mo against the dark forces na pilit dinedestroy ang mga buhay natin. Cooperate with the Master Planner. Dont mess around. Get ready. Everything of it, including you, is about His glory.

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1 Comment

  1. Oh my this is helpful, salamat po ate rigel! Shared Shared Shared!

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